Balancing Empathy and Authority in School Leadership

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As principals, most of us entered education because we care deeply about kids—we’re naturally empathetic. But leadership also requires authority: the ability to set direction, uphold standards, and make tough calls. The challenge? Finding the balance between the two.
In this episode, Barb Flowers unpacks the tension between empathy and authority and why both are essential for effective leadership. You’ll learn:
  • How empathy builds trust and connection, while authority creates safety and consistency
  • The dangers of leaning too far in either direction (people-pleasing vs. rigidity)
  • Three practical tips to balance empathy with authority in daily leadership conversations
Balancing Empathy and Authority in School Leadership